"The Noble Wife Ring" and This Blog
Once upon a time, I joined "The Noble Wife Ring" for a very broadly defined "christian" themed blogs of wives -- this Blog was my offering. I am still a "wife," I'm just a former wife or an "ex-wife" instead of a "wife" now.
Yes, it has been over a year now since we officially "cancelled our marriage." And, officially, on June 22, 2013, that's what we agreed to do, cancel our marriage. The redefinition of one another no longer as husband and wife, has been a long process that we have been working on probably harder than we ever worked on our marriage.
That last statement made me sad. Yet it's true. Mostly, I think, because for those final years we were working on our marriage to try to make it work, but really as we did that, we did the work on ourselves and discovered that we don't really want to be married (as we now understand that concept) to one another.
Will we always be the parents of our daughter and work together for her benefit, absolutely. Will we always be friends, yes, but maybe not the 'best friends' that married couples have to be in order to have the most intimate relationship possible.
So, I'm a noble former wife -- as we do not use the terms "Ex-Wife" and "Ex-Husband" so that others may not automatically ascribe the types of stereotypes those expressions most often held by so many who have lived through the hell of divorce. We enjoyed a very simple cancellation and are reforming our co-parenting relationship from there.
Yes, it has been over a year now since we officially "cancelled our marriage." And, officially, on June 22, 2013, that's what we agreed to do, cancel our marriage. The redefinition of one another no longer as husband and wife, has been a long process that we have been working on probably harder than we ever worked on our marriage.
That last statement made me sad. Yet it's true. Mostly, I think, because for those final years we were working on our marriage to try to make it work, but really as we did that, we did the work on ourselves and discovered that we don't really want to be married (as we now understand that concept) to one another.
Will we always be the parents of our daughter and work together for her benefit, absolutely. Will we always be friends, yes, but maybe not the 'best friends' that married couples have to be in order to have the most intimate relationship possible.
So, I'm a noble former wife -- as we do not use the terms "Ex-Wife" and "Ex-Husband" so that others may not automatically ascribe the types of stereotypes those expressions most often held by so many who have lived through the hell of divorce. We enjoyed a very simple cancellation and are reforming our co-parenting relationship from there.
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